Monday, April 13, 2009

I'm I too strict about my children's dress?

My mother says that I am. I require the kids ages 4,6 and 8 (all boys) to get dressed when they wake up even if it is not a school day. On Saturdays we are all a little lazy until noon, but I require them to get dressed by noon. I never let them just lay around all day without getting dressed.They are expeced to wear a desent shirt, a pair of shorts or pants free of holes, casual or athletic shoes and clean socks. I make them keep their shoes on during the day, but they can take them off after dinner if we are in for the night.They have to dress up on Sundays and if we go out someplace nice. Dressup means a botton down shirt, dress pants, dress shoes and socks. They also dress up on the holidays. A tie is required some of he time, but they can take it off later in the day most of the time.





I think dress is important and tells people allot about yourself and your family. I just want the kids to have good dress habits and not to just lay around all day in the jammies

I%26#039;m I too strict about my children%26#039;s dress?
I do not think you are strict at all. I think more parents need to set guidelines for their kids dress. My kids have to shower and brush their teeth daily. They are also checked before they walk out the door for school or when going out. I too do not like them to lay around half dressed all day, get out and do something! Dressing up is good too as many jobs require it. I would say my kids dress up at least 5 times a month for something.





I do not know why people are attacking you. I see kids all the time dress like yours. I mean you let them wear shorts, you let them wear tennis shoes and I%26#039;m sure you let them wear jeans. As for the shoes in the house lots of parents including I do that. It makes leaving the house so much easier. I mean it seems silly to have to take them off and put them on 20 times a day. Just leave them on! You even said you let them take them off at night. I guess these people just sit around all day eating in their bathrobs while their kids run around with snot on their nose with the feet all dirty.
Reply:I agree that it is important for your kids to get dressed rather than running around in their pjs all day. Personally, though, unless we were going out around adults, I wouldn%26#039;t mind my kids wearing clothes that are a little more %26#039;worn%26#039;. They are just going to wear them out anyway, so why not get the most wear out of them? I don%26#039;t mean dirty and stained and full of holes, but a little tattered isn%26#039;t too bad for playing. Also, I prefer that shoes aren%26#039;t worn inside of our house, so when weather permits, I prefer shoes that can be easily slipped on and off, like sandals or flip flops. Making them get dressed on Saturdays, as well as dressed up for church on Sundays isn%26#039;t bad either. You are helping them learn that their clothes need to be appropriate for where they are going.





Thanks for the interesting question.
Reply:In a word: YES.





They are children who, at this stage, have no real idea that what you are asking is stifling %26amp; not allowing them to be individuals. When they realise, they WILL rebel.





I don%26#039;t agree with lying around in pyjamas all day either but seriously...no flip flops or sandals unless it%26#039;s a special occasion?? Is that in place of lollies %26amp; treats??!





And children being forced to wear a tie when they are as young as 4 %26amp; 6 is cruel IMO. Ease up a little or they will MAKE you ease up a LOT.
Reply:I think u are too strict, the way u say require them? U should ask them to dress as soon as they have had breakfast not as soon as they wake, it dont make much of a difference to u but to them it ll feel like constant naggin, and why the emphasis on what they wear ok if they are goin somewhere nice but if they are out playin i dont see the problem
Reply:I always get my children dressed before breakfast as it makes the day go easier than trying to battle with them after breakfast.





We have a strict rule for shoes outside at all times (due to snakes) but inside its no shoes if they want. My hubby never wears bare feet though as his parents never let him, whereas I am always bare foot in the house.





At home my children wear play clothes as then it doesn%26#039;t matter if they get dirty. When we go out they dress up, no tie though as we aren%26#039;t a tie sort of family.





I think every now and then a jammy day is great, but not all the time :)
Reply:WTF? Do you want them to grow up to be control freaks? What era are you living in? We%26#039;re in the 21st century!!! I think its ok that you don%26#039;t make them lazy by making them get dressed, but seriously making them wear all that shirt and tie? Have you seen what other teens wear? There are plenty of good kids who turned out just fine and they could wear whatever they wanted. I think you should listen to your mother, I mean you turned out right and you didn%26#039;t have to wear all that stuff? Why do you make them keep their shoes on, let them wear sandals!! Live and let live!!
Reply:I agree that dress is important and tells a lot about you, but i think it is needed that you loosen up just a bit on how you let your children dress- just let them relax sometimes.
Reply:Just a little--while it teaches them how to dress later on in life, it is a bit over the fence. I%26#039;d let them take their shoes off in the house--it%26#039;s better on your carpeting; and I%26#039;d let them wear polo shirts, rather than button down all the time--and lose the ties outright.





Keeping them out of their pajamas all day is good--my folks did that with the three of us, and we didn%26#039;t end up warped. (Well...maybe I did just a bit...! :-) ) The only time we were allowed to be in pj%26#039;s all day is if we were sick.
Reply:It isn%26#039;t too good for their feet to be wearing closed shoes all the time; going barefoot or at least allowing the feet to breathe in flipflops or sandals is very healthy, for people of all ages but especially for growing children. Please take a look at the site below and decide what%26#039;s more important, appearances or foot health...
Reply:dang..let them be kids SOMetimes its fine to look nice when you go someplace, especially someplace nice or dressy. but the around the house rules sound a little strict to me.
Reply:I think you%26#039;re a little too obsessive compulsive about that. I mean they%26#039;re boys they%26#039;re supposed to be getting into things, putting holes in their pants, etc..... I mean wearing nice clothes maybe once or twice a year for something nice. Also, once they%26#039;re older they will learn about styles and what they like to wear and what they don%26#039;t like to wear. So, eventually you%26#039;re going to have to relinquish control over your power trip over the clothes. Do you still lay out their underwear for your six and eight year old? Come on lay off of them for a bit let them develop their own style instead of forcing your style down their throats. Your mother is right you%26#039;re not strict though you%26#039;re controlling their aspects of life. They have to learn to dress themselves.
Reply:I think you are to strict. dang calm it down a bit on the kids they are very young and i don%26#039;t see why you would make them dress up when they are not going to leave the house for the day and keep their shoes on the whole day until dinner.But that%26#039;s just what i think
Reply:Yes I think you are too much. Just wait until they are teen agers! I think you should rethink what%26#039;s important.





They are only 4 , 6, and 8 years old they might be used to it now but in a few years it will be a whole new story. Talk to parents of teens clothing is not such an important subject to be this demanding and controling over. I just feel they like all kids will rebel and if you are this strict about when they can wear flip flops you are going to go into culture shock!
Reply:Being that you had to ask this tells me that you think that you are too strict. Yup, I%26#039;d say that you%26#039;re strict.


Sandals or flip flops only on %26quot;special occasions%26quot; such as bbq or swimming? How about during the summer when just going out and about?


Why shoes in the house?





I%26#039;m guessing that this is a fake question, LOL, because no real parents really make their kids abide by such rules of dressing. Thanks for the giggle.
Reply:Sounds too strict to me. I totally understand what you mean by dress and apperance itself sends a message out to people about you and your family. I totally agree but then your children wouldn%26#039;t really be portraying who they really are if they are coaxed into wearing certain things. Make sure they have decent looking clothing but let them make the choice of what they want to wear when they want to wear it. The only time I am strict with my children are the holidays for church, and picture days for school that is it. Any other day they can wear what they want to wear as long as it is weather appropriate.




beauty

What are your views on children's "trainers" with wheels in the heels - don't you think that they are bad ...

...for posture and over and above that simply a nuisance? Don%26#039;t you think that it will encourage them to drag their heels when they are wearing normal shoes as they will get into a bad habit and also wear out their normal shoes more quickly?

What are your views on children%26#039;s %26quot;trainers%26quot; with wheels in the heels - don%26#039;t you think that they are bad ...
my daughter got a pair for her birthday last year, to be honest Joan she%26#039;s hardly wore them, they%26#039;re really a toy, not for wearing all the time, so I don%26#039;t think they%26#039;d effect posture, etc, plus you click a button on them and the wheel goes in to the heel so they%26#039;re like normal trainers, at the end of the day there meant to be fun for kids, like roller blades, skateboards, bikes etc, just because they haven%26#039;t been around for years and years doesn%26#039;t mean they%26#039;re bad, plus as for a danger, everythings a bloody danger, kids are more wrapped up in cotton wool nowadays than they ever were before, ffs, I%26#039;m amazed a lot of parents even let their kids get out their bed in the morning!
Reply:Let me guess...





Your daughter in law wants to buy some for her children, right?
Reply:Heelies? Yes I think they%26#039;re a ridiculous waste of space, money and effort. Couldn%26#039;t believe the shops are charging £70 for them!





And I recently noticed a sign in my local shopping centre that said %26quot;USE OF HEELIES, SKATEBOARDS AND SKATES PROHIBITED%26quot; so there must have been some incidents with them since they went on sale.





I don%26#039;t think they%26#039;re a very good idea at all, not because of heel-dragging but mostly due to safety issues. I%26#039;m surprised they were allowed on sale at all.
Reply:they are annoying for us adults ,when we are out and about in town kids coming out of nowhere nearly knocking you over .but i suppose they are the %26quot;must have%26quot; thing right now ,although my daughter wasn%26#039;t bothered about having them for chrimbo , so i%26#039;m grateful for that lol !!
Reply:i agree that they are dangerous,my friends child had them months ago and nearly went out in front of a passing car,only that the car stopped very quickly she would of been hit,i wouldnt let my children wear them for their own saftey...hope your well joan.x
Reply:I just think they are stupid in general. HATE when kids where them in public, like at a store.
Reply:Ha...you think THEY%26#039;RE bad (I do too) but just wait until the UK starts selling the Asian hit of the moment - toddlers shoes that squeak with every step they take. I%26#039;m a Brit living in SE Asia and these are the worst things ever. They are beyond irritating, they just make you want to rip the things off the poor little sod%26#039;s feet and chuck them out of the nearest window (the shoes, I%26#039;m not quite so cruel to children. Well, not ALL children anyway). Terrible. I have no doubt they%26#039;ll eventually appear in the UK, so buy your earplugs now.
Reply:I think they%26#039;re great. I%26#039;d love a pair.


As for children dragging their heels, they don%26#039;t work like that. Yes the children lift their toes when they want to skate but the wheel clicks back in and they are worn as normal shoes otherwise. Short term I%26#039;ve seen kids walking on their toes rather than kick the wheel in so if anything it%26#039;s the opposite.


Another thing I%26#039;ve noticed is the excellent posture that Heelie-wearers adapt because if they%26#039;re not standing properly they fall over.
Reply:I bloody hate them Joan...especially when the little blighters wear them in Sainsburys...and go whizzing past me....grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....
Reply:I LOVE heelies and so my grandsons. Airport Staff often wear them ,which is where we saw them first.There are 2 types - the ones with the wheels underneath that will push back into the heels if necessary and the the other type that strap around the shoe.- good fun both sorts


HOWEVER


A few weeks ago while I was looking after the 8year old, I had to take him shopping and as he HATES shopping with a vengeance, we were playing a sort of %26#039;supermarket sweep %26#039; game as we filled the trolley. A young worker came up to me and told me to LEAVE the store if I didn%26#039;t make him take off his heelies ! Apparently they don%26#039;t allow %26#039;wheels%26#039; - no. obviously by the state of their trolley wheels - there- but don%26#039;t go round properly!


More chaos ensued as I put my trolley in the middle of the aisle, sat down my grandson and proceeded to bash the wheels back in . BTW we were also asked to take off our hoodies
Reply:i dont think they are a bad thing, infact my brother and mum just bought a pair for my neice yesterday! i think each parent has the right to make a desicion! and they should stick to it and not be influenced by others! just my opinion!
Reply:they are dangerous.. they are banned in some supermarkets / shopping places.





I%26#039;m waiting to hear someone was yawning, stretched their arms and accidentally clothes lined someone (like in the wrestling)





and they%26#039;ll have the cheek to sue the shop.
Reply:They are very annoying in Tesco when you have to dodge the brats riding round on them.
Reply:The staff in a Tesco superstore have been zipping around on these type of shoes for years now.
Reply:Have to agree, with you there. I can see my kids dragging their heels.


They already go threw shoes too quickly!!
Reply:I%26#039;m with you on this one Joan! I hate heeleys. Kids ride through the stores on those stupid things and around corners so fast they take out grocery carts. Sooner or later an elderly person will get hit and take out a hip.





Those shoes someone else mentioned that squeak with every step are so annoying as well. I hate hearing toddlers in walmart walking around and every little step they take those dumb shoes go %26quot;squeak, squeak, squeak, squeak%26quot; They are NOT cute shoes people - they are danged annoying!
Reply:hi the brand name is heeleys and i think they are a death trap imagine anything could happen and i hate them to bits you just as easily buy some normal skates instead of waisting even more money and time finding a pair of heeleys they are total deathtraps . hope you agree !!!!
Reply:I think they are aweful and my main concern would be the hilds posture and the damage they will be doing to their feet/ legs . There are bound to be reperussions when the child is older, feet werent designed to be used in that way and the children are leaning back on their heals in a very unatural way. My daughter certainly will never have any :)
Reply:I don%26#039;t really know that much about them joan.......apart from being a flaming nuisance when the kids wear them in my local Tescos and speed up and down the aisles !!
Reply:For those who don%26#039;t know what they are





http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar...





They are an accident waiting to happen. The worst creation since the %26quot;chipper%26quot; bike which catapulted kids over the handlebars when they used their brakes. I can%26#039;t beleive it is legal to sell them.





Parents buy your child a scooter instead. One without a motor.
Reply:I agree with you for once, Joan. And they%26#039;re called Heelies.
Reply:i hate them they are called heelys hence wheels in heels
Reply:i got them for both my children last year


aged 9 %26amp;6 years at the time





they only lasted a month or so


they both found them uninteresting and have collected dust ever since
Reply:I dont think they are that bad. I think that as long as they do have normal trainers and shoes for school, going places with parents etc then having the wheel version on sometimes is no big deal!





I think that skates can prove a good way of getting kids to exercise-get them up off the sofa and possibly into other sports like ice skating, skateboarding etc.
Reply:personally i think its a safety hazard as well, due to falling down on slick flooring, or running into someone else. alot of area stores are banding these kinds of shoes, they wont let the child nor the parent come in to the store with the shoes on. I agree with them. I don%26#039;t want my child wearing roller skates in the house let alone a store.
Reply:Those shoes with the wheely heels? I think they%26#039;re called Heelys but I%26#039;m not positive. I can%26#039;t stand them, kids use them in public places and bump into people. I was at a hockey game on Saturday and it was very full, and lo and behold, some kid was running around on them and smacked into an older lady. I%26#039;m fine with them using those shoes on their own but not in public like that, I%26#039;m tempted to trip the kids each time I see them...
Reply:been around in the states for years .be ok for the nurses to zip around the wards though.
Reply:what the ef r u talking about?



knode-devel

What does he mean? ...sold ladies...?

Republican Fred Thompson, son of a used-car salesman, remembers his years before law offices, Hollywood and the Senate. %26quot;Well, let%26#039;s see,%26quot; he said. %26quot;I%26#039;ve worked in a factory, I was a bouncer at my uncle%26#039;s drag strip, I worked at the post office, I sold children%26#039;s shoes, I sold ladies%26#039;, I sold men%26#039;s clothing, I was a night clerk at a motel.





%26quot;I can%26#039;t think of a job that I had that I wasn%26#039;t thankful for at the time.%26quot;








Does he mean pimp? I hope not!!

What does he mean? ...sold ladies...?
he probably forgot a word or it was a typo.
Reply:um no...he means he also sold ladies shoes. Learn to be smarter....
Reply:He sold womens%26#039; shoes.
Reply:Pimps don%26#039;t sell ladies.... they rent them out.





Richard
Reply:I weep for our future.



skin spots

What children's movie is this?

Set in a cold and snowy place. The princess has two older sisters who only love jewelry, clothes, etc.. while she love nature. She is proposed to by a polar bear prince, but she can%26#039;t see his human face until their wedding night. Her sisters convince her to look at him while he%26#039;s asleep. A witch then captures him as her husband and the princess must go save him. At some point in the movie she wears shoes that can make her walk on walls as long as she doesn%26#039;t get them wet.

What children%26#039;s movie is this?
%26quot;Kvitebjørn Kong Valemon%26quot; aka %26quot;The Polar Bear King%26quot;


www.imdb.com/title/tt0102247
Reply:Glad to be of help. Report It

Reply:IT IS FROM %26quot;THE FAIRY TALES%26quot; MOVIE.
Reply:It%26#039;s on the tip of my toungue. It%26#039;s based off of an old European fairytale that my parents used to read me..



acne cure

What is 5.88 on a ruler? 5 inches and ??

i%26#039;m ordering a pair of children%26#039;s shoes and the measurements are in inches. i get 5.25 or 5.75 but 5.88 or 6.07 no clue.

What is 5.88 on a ruler? 5 inches and ??
1 inch is graduated in 16 parts. This should mean that 1 inch is 16/16. Note that.in the ruler. Then, 0.88 x 16/16 = 14/16.


Therefore 5.88 inches is 5 and 14/16 inches


Reducing the fraction to lowest term, we get;


5 and 7/8 inches.
Reply:5 and 7.04/8





so 5 and seven eighths
Reply:On a ruler,. that is Five and seven eigths=


5 7/8



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Recycling children's car seats. Who knows of an environmentally friendly way to get rid of old car seats?

I have a bunch of old kids%26#039; car seats that are no longer in use. Handing them down to others is no longer feasible because of expiry dates on the seats and the possibility of lawsuits. I%26#039;ve heard of programs that recycle shoes and wonder if anyone knows of such a thing for the kids%26#039; old car seats?

Recycling children%26#039;s car seats. Who knows of an environmentally friendly way to get rid of old car seats?
salvation army, thrift store drop off boxes etc. someone can use them saving them money and negating the need to make a new one.


reduce


reuse


recycle
Reply:I%26#039;ve seen quite a few posted on freecycle. Personally when our daughter grows out of her carseat we would like to get another off freecycle to keep the costs down. As it is not for profit there doesn%26#039;t seem to be any reason for people to be dishonest about them not being in an accident (which could obviously mean they are less safe).
Reply:If you are a bit of a Handy Man (or woman), you could make a more stable frame for the seat to sit in - so it will stand safely on the floor without flipping backwards. Remember to remove the straps entirely. It can be used as a comfortable seat for a toddler while watching TV or just having an afternoon nap.


If you can%26#039;t reuse in one manner, try another!
Reply:if you can not %26quot;free-cycle%26quot; them, then another alternative would be to remove all the hardware and material and recycle the plastic. I don%26#039;t know how crafty you are or if you used them for you kids but I took my oldest daughters car seat, playbed cover crib sheet ETC and made her a very large blanket after cutting it into pieces, she still uses the blanket too and she is 16 now, its fun for memories to the child.chalk this one up to a crafty Mom of 10 kids, my Mom used to do this with all our old stuff, we loved it when we could sit around on a winter day and she would sit down with us and show us the clothes we can home from the hospital in, our favorite shirt as a toddler ETC
Reply:There is a lady who is looking for a carseat~ her son was in an accident this week and cannot use it anymore~ I would suggest posting it for someone who needs one asap! Thanks!
Reply:you can take baby stuff to life choices on south main street and if they are not open you can leave the stuff on the porch there and they will get it. it is next to the drug store on south main street in phillipsburg new jersey
Reply:I%26#039;m not really sure about recycling them. I agree with the person who originally asked the question- car seats past the expiration date stamped on the seat or on the label should NOT be donated, or freecycled. Over time the plastic shell and web straps can develop imperceptible defects and become weakened. The only way to discover them is in a serious accident, which would be terrible. Safe, new carseats can be purchased relatively inexpensively and there are assistance programs out there for parents who can not afford them.





Seats that have expired should be destroyed before putting them to the curb or recycle plant. Minimally, the straps should be cut and removed, and ideally the shell should be broken, such as with a sledgehammer. I am not sure if local recyclers will accept the seats, you might check with the manufacturer for more information.





If a seat has not passed that date of expiration and has never been in an accident, by all means pass it on and let someone else get the remaining use out of it.





Kids are too important to risk their lives using a carseat that is past the expiry date.



skin whitening

Why do parents think they could handle being kids today?

K, I know that I%26#039;m going a little %26quot;Freaky Friday%26quot; on you guys, but why do parents always think they would, like, rule the world if they took a place in their child%26#039;s shoes?! They don%26#039;t know a thing about how life is, and then when you tell them that, they go all... %26quot;One day your children will say the exact same thing to you, and you%26#039;ll laugh and I%26#039;ll say %26#039;I told you so!%26#039;%26quot;

Why do parents think they could handle being kids today?
I think that each generations expierences are so different. Our parents were the ones that didnt carry cell phones, walked everywhere, for fun they didnt hang out at clubs. I think that we all experience the feeling that our life is harder, and I am sure it is true. I think that each year it gets harder and harder to live in this society. For instince, my parents like probably 90% of all parents out there want me to marry a guy of my own race. White, Black, Puerto Rican, Asian. All races are like that. I personally see so many biracial relationships now it is pretty common. I would have no problem dating or marrying out of my race. It has to do with our generation. In our parents time, that was practically unheard of. I think that times have changes, and parents are just oblivious to the fact that they had to deal with stuff, but the stuff we have to deal with is 10 times harder.
Reply:i kno, it pisses me off. the world is a lot different and more dangerous than wat it was in our parents day. the pressure is harder cause u don%26#039;t just have it from ur friends but, from music, movies, ads, mags, and celebrities. things were different in there time just like how it will be different in our kids time. our world always changes, nothin stays the same. and i hate when they say, i kno how u feel, maybe alittle bit but, things r still different.
Reply:cuz they dont realize how different it is now than when it wuz when they wer growin up! hmm i wish they would realize it tho!
Reply:Because it%26#039;s true. Now that I have my own teenager, I have told my mom that I now understand what she was trying to tell me when I was that age. I%26#039;ve also apologized to her several times for putting her through the cr*ap I put her through when I was young! It%26#039;s the same way with every generation and will never change. Though, each generation has their own special challenges, the generation just prior to yours is very similar - believe me, your parents understand what you are going through. They have been there and done that. You will have to wait to have your own kids to understand - just like everyone else.
Reply:What they are telling you is SOOOO true.
Reply:its true! Every generation thinks they had it tougher than the one before, and only when they reach adulthood and find out what REAL pressure is do they realise how easy kids have it, especally if they would just LISTEN to advice!!
Reply:I am a mother of 3 and I would never even want to walk in my childrens shoes these days and they know it! But parents say that to their children because our parents did it to us and yes you will do it to your kids. By the time you have your own kids you will have grown up more and figured a lot of things out and try to help your kids and they will look at you the same way you%26#039;re looking at your parents. It%26#039;s a pattern that is inevitable no matter how hard you try to fight it. Sorry. But when you%26#039;re a parent it%26#039;s kind of funny because you see yourself in your kids.
Reply:How can you say that parents don%26#039;t know a thing about how life is. They have been alive alot longer than you have. Every generation goes through the same turmoil. The only difference is the technology. I think it%26#039;s funny that the younger generation always thinks they are the first ones to have to deal with anything. I don%26#039;t have kids, so this is the viewpoint of a neutral observer, an outsider lookin in. I heard the same stories from my grandparents, then my parents, then my brothers and sisters, then my neices and nephews, and I expect to see it from their kids too if I live long enough. Everybody has to walk to school barefoot in the snow uphill both ways. Your parents don%26#039;t think they could rule the world if they took your place. They are just seeing themselves again, in you, and wishing they knew then what they know now.
Reply:Adults think that because they went through their teenage years once they could do it again, no matter what decade. But being a teenager has gotten harder recently, so I%26#039;m not sure if us old farts could hack it. I certainly wouldn%26#039;t want to go through high school again and I didn%26#039;t graduate that long ago.
Reply:that phrase is right you know. we say that to kids because it%26#039;s true. we all went through that okay. we were all kids at one time and we did bad things. we tell you that because now we%26#039;re adults, we%26#039;ve been through a lot of growing. If we can handle this adult life, we could defiantly handle an adolescents!
Reply:As a parent, I think its partly wishful thinking... its always easier to see a solution for someone else than it is for yourself. And parents really want the very best for their children, so they want to solve the problems and fix everything. Also, there really is a lot to be said for life-experience and how it gives you perspective. That said, of course life today is different from how it was for parents. They don%26#039;t know exactly what you are going through. But they probably have a pretty good idea of how what you are going through will fit into the rest of your life, even if they are not able to truely empathize with your feelings at the moment.


My advice would be to listen to what they are saying with the understanding that they do have a unique perspective, and that they totally love you, and that you also have a unique perspective and hopefully love and respect yourself, and then hey, at least you can agree on how great you are :)
Reply:Why do kids think they could handle being kids when their parents were young? I was a teenager once and knew so much more than my parents ever would, they didn%26#039;t have a clue how hard is was to be me and they never understood me... now that i%26#039;m an adult and don%26#039;t know it all, I will be raising my kids exactly the same way I was even though they will know it all already!
Reply:I don%26#039;t feel I could handle being a kid today at all!


That is why I try real hard to listen to my daughter and yet, guide her.


What your parents need to understand is that things are faster and harder, (unfortunately) than what they were back when, but at the same time, what you need to understand is that is was easier being a parent back then too...
Reply:And what exactly is so new today that wasn%26#039;t around 20-30 years ago? Drugs? we had that too. Violence? Yup it was there, and plenty of it. Peer pressure? Try again. Terrorists? Yeah even that, only they weren%26#039;t called terrorists.





We don%26#039;t know how life is? That is ridiculous, if anything it%26#039;s kids that don%26#039;t know how life is. Try paying rent, utilities, car payments, insurance, medical bills, cell phone bills, clothes, food, %26amp; entertainment. Try worrying about kids, pregnancy, injuries and a whole list of things that I can%26#039;t even think of right now.





Try thinking thing through before you say something, every parent was once a teenager, we know everything there is to know about it, not because we read it in a book. It%26#039;s because we lived through it and made it to the other side. Not listening to your elders is like trying to find a place you%26#039;ve never been without a map... not very smart.



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