Am I crazy for asking my child's daycare provider to try to keep my 11month old's shoes on his feet?

The daycare provider claimed it would be %26quot;impossible%26quot; to keep his shoes on his feet.


She claimed that because she has other children to tend to throughout the day, that she will not be able to run behind my son all day to keep shoes on his feet.


She only watches 5 or less children per day.

Am I crazy for asking my child%26#039;s daycare provider to try to keep my 11month old%26#039;s shoes on his feet?
if it%26#039;s your preference to keep shoes on your son%26#039;s feet then I think the daycare provider should do as you ask. She%26#039;s being paid to provide a service, so I think she should be able to at least try to comply with your wishes and not have such a feeble excuse as to why she simply can%26#039;t do as you ask.





try double knotting his laces this may help.
Reply:you are never crazy to ask the daycare provider to accomodate you and YOUR child, that%26#039;s not even considered %26quot;special accomodations%26quot;
Reply:Funny, I would be more worried about him having shoes ON his feet all day! : ) Babies learn how to walk by the feel of the ground beneath them. They have an extra sensitive foot pad that allows them to be able to adjust their balance. Babies should not be wearing shoes unless they are going outside on the ground. Besides that, it allows the sensitive parts of his feet to explore different feelings/textures, such as carpet, grass, tile, linoleum, etc that are important in sensory integration. When I did home daycare, the children never wore shoes in the house, and my family never does now. It is way more comfortable to have shoes off (unless you have a sensory aversion to that feeling) and more effective for a baby to learn how to walk if they have their shoes off. He kicks them off because it feels better to have them off!
Reply:yes, it is crazy of you to ask her this...I worked in a daycare center, and am also a mom, so i understand both sides....





the floors in the daycare center are not filthy, im sure, and 11 month old do NOT WANT shoes on their feet!! if you had 5 kids all day that you didnt just put in front of a TV, that you ENTERTAINED all day, im sure you would understand...wouldnt you rather your child laugh and have fun than have a daycare provider worry about shoes?





5 children, thats 5 diapers changes an hour (if not more) 5 children to feed, 5 to play with, 5 to put to sleep....
Reply:i was a stay at home mom when my oldest was that age and i couldn%26#039;t keep his shoes on, and i only had the 1 child to tend. Really, it does no harm for him to take them off and often it%26#039;s easier to let a child have his way as long as it doesn%26#039;t harm him at all what%26#039;s the issue? Why is it such a big deal to you that he keep them on? I would be upset if the shoes were constantly lost because of this behavior but if the daycare provider picks them up and puts them away for you why bother? Kids need to make some choices about their world, it%26#039;s good for them to practice making independent decisions, and this is one that%26#039;s perfect to let him have.
Reply:NO, and if she cannot do that you need to go to a supervisor, that is a reasonable request, you are mom, maybe you need a new daycare, if shoes is such an issue, what would happen when a really big issue arises, doesn%26#039;t look good
Reply:Most docs recommend that babies DON%26#039;T wear shoes until they are walking very well.





Has your child been walking for a few months already? If not, don%26#039;t worry about shoes for now.





Most daycares have dress codes, and often request that the kids don%26#039;t wear shoes, and only wear onesies, etc. Do they do anything strange at that daycare, like make kids walk on concrete or gravel?





He honestly won%26#039;t need shoes until he is closer to about 15 months unless he is being exposed to hazardous surfaces.
Reply:you must only have one child to take care of...because 5 or less is alot of children for one person to keep track of...she probably won%26#039;t be able to make your baby wear his shoes all the time....if he takes his shoes off, she can%26#039;t stop what she is doing for that...if she gets to it..she gets to it..if not...its not that big of a deal..and at that age he really doesnt need to be wearing his shoes all the time....
Reply:Well, my kids at that age were always taking off their shoes, or they would fall off. I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s unreasonable to ask her to do that, but I can see where it would be a nuesance. Besides, if he has socks on, I would think that would be ok. And also, my kids by the end of the day can%26#039;t wait to get their shoes off their feet. Their little feet get tired of having shoes on just like us by the end of our work day. Maybe your son is more comfortable with his shoes off...AND - I would not do that if I was a stay at home mom, I have 3 kids and there is no way I would go behind my youngest putting her shoes back on every time. Man, I know five kids or less doesn%26#039;t seem like a lot, but even my 3 are a handful. I would not push this any further and lighten up about it.
Reply:Yeah, pretty much. Shoes don%26#039;t seem like a big deal
Reply:I worked in the 18 month old room at a daycare center. There were 11 of them, and 2 of us. Of course we try to keep TRACK of the shoes... but that doesn%26#039;t necessarily mean they%26#039;re going to be on the kids feet. We try though. We reiterate over and over. %26quot;No no no, shoes stay ON our feet in school.%26quot; Some though would take them off 10 times in 10 minutes. Thats when you say grrr and put the shoes in their cubby. If its a licensed provider-- the room should be well maintained clean and sanitary. Are his shoes uncomfortable, pinching or too small? Or is he simply doing what babies do? Exploring himself and his surroundings? As long as he%26#039;s wearing them outside, it%26#039;s fine. You%26#039;re not CRAZY just uneducated on the world of daycares apparently.
Reply:i dont think that is a crazy question to ask concidering if your child catches a cold you are the one who has to sit in the emergency room for hours and possible taking off from work .
Reply:If your child is outside without shoes I would complain, there are dangers outside, but if it%26#039;s only inside, I don%26#039;t really see any harm in being barefoot, but if you are really concerned maybe take him to a different daycare, or bring a nanny into the house so it%26#039;s just them and your child and they can pay full attention and make sure your needs are met,





I think I would be more concerned about the level of care that he is receiving and if it is sub par get him out of there
Reply:Five children is alot for one person. But if you feel it is nessecary for what ever reason then you should find shoes that he cant take off. But it is a bit crazy for asking her to run behind him all day to put his shoes on him. She has to take care of five other kids to. How can she run around behind your kid all day and take care of the other kids. It is not fair to ask that much of one person If you cant handel it find a new daycare provider. Maybe you should try her job for a day
Reply:yes and know, first off anyone that has every had a 11month old knows that once they figure out how to take there shoes off, it%26#039;s on, and every time u get out of the car, leave the room, etc. they are off. lol, on the other hand she should respect your wishes as your daycare provider. Try to work with her on it, for instance buy your son a pair of shoes that it%26#039;s difficult for him to get off, that way it%26#039;s not such a huge deal for your provider.
Reply:When in daycare, kids do not get the sort of attention that parents imagine they do....I dont want to upset you, but there has been a lot of research here in the U.K. that has shown quite awful neglect....kids just left to their own devices and only the ones who shout loudest getting any attention. I teach and in my experiences, the kids from daycare are more timid than any other kids. I dont think that asking for your sons shoes to be kept on is a big ask at all...but maybe she is too busy with other things....not good.
Reply:Only when the child is active (running, walking) should he/she be wearing shoes, as most doctors would tell you. Otherwise, the shoes should be off (e.g. sleeping, not on his feet, etc), so that he doesn%26#039;t twist his ankle and allow the feet to be free for development/growth. I would agree that your son should have socks on. Also, when picking shoes, you should get the right size for him (not too tight or too big), and the shoes to have inner and have full ankle support. Make sure to check they fit right.
Reply:Sounds to me like a bunch of inexperience young parents answering you. Any of you ever heard the term %26quot;flat footed%26quot; it comes from not wearing shoes in the early years of bone development. To respond to one answer regarding Doctors recommending they not wear shoes until they are walking, find another opinion; is anyone curious why they make “training shoes”? These are stiff high top shoes the working principal is that when crawling the shoe’s back top will dig into the leg making it uncomfortable to crawl thus they learn to stand and walk. The high tops also provide support to the ankles during the transition from crawling to walking and prevents them from getting twisted ankles. This real risk must not have occurred to these recommending Doctors you speak of.
Reply:I used to work at a daycare and I had a couple parents ask me to make sure their shoes were on. Of course I couldn%26#039;t watch their feet ALL hours of the day, but I made sure to check every now and then.
Reply:You think it%26#039;s easy to take care of 5 small children??? If he%26#039;s playing outside, I can see the need for shoes, but in the house, there are more important things to do with 5!!! kids, unless the shoes are corrective. In that case you need to devise a way to tie them so he can%26#039;t take them off. Check to be sure they are a proper fit and not hurting his feet.


Why don%26#039;t you get some soft shoes that he won%26#039;t mind wearing? Time for a compromise.


If all the children are as young as yours, then she has too many. Most states only allow three babies per caregiver and that%26#039;s plenty.
Reply:Is the child walking? If not i dont see why he needs shoes on at all times. If it bothers you so much maybe you should get them shore that are harder to get off.
Reply:maybe you both can compromise. come to an understand. if it is important that shoes are on his feet at all times, maybe compromise to have his socks on his feet at all times. i%26#039;m a new mom and i want shoes and socks on my daughter%26#039;s feet at all times also. the daycare my daughter attends does not have a problem with that, and they actually make sure of it. if the problem persists, you may want to find another daycare. i don%26#039;t believe its that hard to keep track of shoes on the kids feet. i sat down and watched my daughter%26#039;s %26quot;teacher%26quot; (as we call her) with the other kids. and she has ample time to keep track of what they are doing and if their shoes fall off, she can place them back on. its a simple task to ask. you%26#039;ll be okay. good luck.
Reply:Is your child a good walker? Because it%26#039;s better that the shoes be off so they can better develop those skills.





Also, my 1 yr old (a good walker) chews his laces and puts them in his mouth so I don%26#039;t even put them on in his car seat now - why leave them on all day? I guess I don%26#039;t understand your motivation in wanting this - how about socks with the skids on the bottom?
Reply:When you send your child to a day care situation you cannot have them to do anything you want them too -- its just shoes its not that big of a deal. My daycare center wont let my daughter take her shoes off not even to sleep which bothered me at first but now I know put really comfy shoes on her feet she%26#039;ll be fine! and so will your son!
Reply:yes there are 5 children running around!



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